Recently I was working with a dear client who stated the desire for more ease in her life.
There are times when a person states this desire and I know that they need their hand held as we walk to the bathroom, light the candles, fill the bath tub and set a kitchen timer, so unaccustomed to self care are they.
But this particular client was already adept at self care, she was an artist of it actually.
And yet, in her voice, I heard utter exhaustion.
Not the type of exhaustion that comes from too little pleasure and rest, but the kind of exhaustion that comes from using pleasure to cover up your truth.
For example, I once had a boyfriend that let me dress him up like he was my doll. I’d stick him in a suit and take him to the Oak Room in NYC for the fanciest of fancy dates. We’d dance, we’d dine, he’d rock his little bow tie and we’d have a grand ol’ time.
The morning after however, I would wake up feeling frustrated and empty, wondering why I felt so chronically dissatisfied with him, even though he was so willing to cater to my desires.
I now can see that I was ignoring the most important component of generating true pleasure, which is: TRUTH.
In retrospect I can see that with my date, I believed that if I just costumed him appropriately he’d become the man I was dressing him up to be.
For my client, the task of adding more pleasure to her life would in fact just be creating more work, which is the opposite of the ease she craves.
It’s like there are two tools in our tool box, the feather duster and the wrench.
The feather duster is what you use to improve a situation with your joy, sensuality, magic and beauty.
The wrench, a.k.a. the truth, is what you use to get in there deep, using potent honesty to do some very heavy lifting.
Is one tool more powerful, more useful, or more superior than the other?
A chorus line kick is just as valuable as a ninja roundhouse.
Yin and yang, full and dark moon, Madonna and whore, yoga pants and evening gown, feather duster and wrench.
As a Sacred Seductress, you are a holistic creature. It is all of these tools, not just some of them, that create the mosaic of your beauty.
Cheering you on with a high-kick,