The Perfect Shave

Few things are more seductive than a hand traveling slowly over the curves and valleys of supple, smooth, freshly shaved skin. Whether that hand belongs to you, a lover, a little one, a friend or whomever, having a smooth shave is just..really…nice.

Little known fact about me: I am an expert when it comes to tending the skin. For ten years I worked in the skin care industry as a spa therapist, and for five of those I was a corporate trainer teaching high level continuing education to skin care professionals. I know A LOT about the skin. One of the things I studied and taught extensively was the art of shaving, for both men and women.

Today my loves I am giving you the down and dirty details on what you need to get the smoothest shave of your life. I once told this information to my roommate and she said “Do you feature this at your retreats? Because I would pay an entire retreat fee just to get this information.”

Well lucky for you, this is my diary darlings. I hold no secrets here.


As important as the shave itself is what you do to prepare.

What that means is: EXFOLIATE! Exfoliate sister. Gloves, scrubs, whatever it is, using an abrasive (physical) exfoliant does two things. 1. It clears away dead skin cells, leaving skin softer. 2. It lifts the hair up and out of the follicle, therefore getting a closer shave. EXFOLIATE. Trust me, your life will change.

Use a product you love to shave with, but use it accordingly.

One of the biggest mistakes we make is using too little or too much shaving product. Too much and there is a frothy wall between the razor and the hair, so you are left with a stubbly result. Too little and you are left with razor burn.

You want the razor to have a nice slip over the skin but you still want to feel contact of the blade against the hair. Also, make sure that every few short strokes you RINSE THE RAZOR. I cannot emphasize the importance of this enough. Think of the razor as being like a lawnmower. If there are clumps of grass stuck to the blade, you are not going to get an even result when you mow the lawn. Similarly, when you have globs of hair and shaving product stuck to the razor, there is no way for the blade to make contact with the base of the hair. Make short strokes, then rinsey rinsey.

Art of shaving razor and brush

Art of shaving razor and brush

 Direction: A Science and an Art

Again, the goal in order to get a great shave is for the blade of the razor to make clean and clear contact with the base of the hair. This requires meticulous attention to the direction of hair growth in all areas.

Legs: Hair tends to grow straight down on the shin and outside calf, inner calf and back of the leg it tends to swirl. Again, short strokes will enable you to make sure you are always going against the direction of the hair no matter what kind of labyrinth it’s growth direction is sending you on!

Bikini line/Underarm: this area, as you may have already learned the hard way, is a little more tricky. In addition to multiple spirals of growth direction, just look at that delicate skin the wrong way and you get laden with bumps, irritation and ingrown hairs, as though you’ve been cursed with some sort of plague! Not anymore, stick with me kid.

  1. Do a few strokes of the razor  going along with (rather than against) the direction of the hair growth first. This will cut any longer hairs that can catch the razor and make for a more even shave when you are ready to go against the direction of the hair growth.
  2. Pull the skin taught. This will ensure more control and more evenness to the shave. Remember, small strokes for the win. Once you have done one or two gentle strokes going against the direction of hair growth, you may want to apply more shaving product and or/rinse the razor. Ingrown hairs and irritation are as much due to friction over the skin as they are to the razor hitting the hair. The more of a buffer you have, the less likely irritation becomes.
  3. Do one pass with the razor over the skin after the shave is complete, going with the direction of hair growth.  This causes any wayward hairs to lay down flat rather than stick up.  This minimizes the chance of inflammation and ingrown hairs.

Since this is such a broad topic, I am going to finish it up tomorrow with the after care of shaving (just as important as the foreplay), as well as a girlfriends guide to in-growns. I’ll also list my all time favorite products (including razors), why I love them and how you can get your hands on them asap.

Let me know in the comments, do you like this blog topic? Want to see more info on here about tending your most sensitive organ with grace and beauty?

Let me know if you want the skin care hits to keep on comin’. I got em in spades.


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A New Year’s Seduction Ritual

Bath-Time Bliss

It’s midnight on New Year’s Eve-Eve, and right now I am lying in bed, writing by the light of two tapered candlesticks.  Every inch of my body has been soaked, scrubbed and balmed.  My feet are slippery with lotion in my little winter socks.  I am leaving the scent of lavender oil (handmade by my Mother) all over my sheets by laying on them with my bare skin.

One of my core rituals as a Seductress is my bath.  I have been known to take as many as three, sometimes four baths in one day.  I do not have an elegant claw foot tub or a lavish bathroom with heated floors. But I have discovered a way to turn my tiny NYC apartment bathroom into a sacred Goddess temple through the art of ritual.

On this New Year’s Eve, I wanted to share a sweet, sacred ritual that I do to make your New Year sing with sensuality.

Items you will need:

  • 3 things you can add to enhance your bath.  Examples would be: Epsom salts, flower petals, essential oils, bubble bath/body wash, a water-safe object that has meaning to you like a pebble or a shell
  • A few candles
  • A book or magazine that relaxes you (erotica is really good to read in the bath!)
  • Your favorite music (some of my favorite bath-time Pandora stations are India Arie, Brahms, Jami Sieber and The Indigo girls)
  • A towel and lotion for after the bath

1. Prepare
Begin by cleaning the tub, making it fit for a Queen.  As you scrub, do so with the intention of buffing away anything that doesn’t serve you in your body and life.  You don’t have to think about these things as you scrub, just holding the intention will do the trick.

When the tub is clean, fill it with as much water as it will hold!
While the tub is filling, grab a clean towel and fold it nicely. Press play on your music.

2. Create Sacred Space
Light the candles.  As you light each candle envision each of them representing angels of sensuality, there to protect you and hold a sacred space for you to complete your ritual.

3. Dress your bath
Take a moment with each item you have chosen to add to the water. Infuse each item with your intention.  You can turn any ordinary object into a powerful piece of magic just with your thoughts and intentions.  For example, when I sprinkle Epsom salts into my bath, I first hold the salts and say “these salts will draw everything from my body that keeps me from love.  These salts are of the Earth, I am of the Earth. These salts make this water feel like a hug from the Earth itself.”

I then add pure essential oils.  As I add lavender, I say “this oil will bring soothing energy to my bath, easing any stress or tension in my feminine soul”.  As I add the rose oil: “this oil will infuse me with all the beauty, radiance and perfection of a summer rose in full bloom”.  As I add the jasmine oil: “this oil infuses me with the exoticism of the Goddess, her mystery, her intrigue, and her irresistibility”.  

Whatever items you choose, they are perfect.  You can even use table sugar to add more sweetness to your life. It is your intention that gives them their power.  Get creative and don’t hold back!

4. Step In
Step in slowly and savor every moment of sitting back into the water, letting it swirl around you.  Feel as much as you can.  Caress your skin under the water.  Let the music soothe you. Close your eyes and breathe in the steam, the scents, the moment.

If it feels right, pick up your book or magazine. If you like meditation, do that instead. Maybe journaling is your jam. Choose whatever puts a stop to the racing thought patterns in your mind and allows your body to fully relax.

Float on in the bath for as long as you like, a minimum of 20 minutes. Get out when it feels right.  Not when you need to baste the chicken, not when you are bored and want to check your email, when it feels right to your body, then you may step out of the bath.

5. Step Out
When you feel complete, close your eyes and envision Aphrodite, a Goddess born of the sea.  As you stand up, feel yourself as Goddess: renewed, regenerated and reborn, a different woman now than the woman that stepped into that water.

Envelop yourself in your freshly folded towel.  While your skin is still slightly damp, slather yourself with twice the lotion/cream you would normally use. Get your whole body nice and slick.  Then, let your hands run wild all over your skin. Massage, caress and bless yourself with your own hands until the cream starts to absorb. Play with vigorous touch and slow touch. Make sure not to leave a single inch of your body unloved.

When you are finished in the space, thank the Earth, thank the water, thank yourself for taking this time, and thank the Goddess for making you exactly who you are on this day.

Yours in Sacred Seduction,

PS – On New Year’s Day, come dance in 2013 with a special Qoya celebration! The theme of the class is saying goodbye to resolutions and hello to Seduction being the new law of attracting your desires. It is going to be a heavenly dance party and your body and soul will feel amazing, during and afterwards – I guarantee it. Join us!!new-years-day-qoya