Letting Go vs. Letting Yourself GoRecently I was speaking with a client who was at a breaking point with being extremely stressed out for a very long time.  When we explored the sensations in her body, she felt a clinging sensation, like she was holding on for dear life.

“There is a part of me that knows I need to soften, but I’m so afraid that if I do, it will all fall apart.”

Such wisdom in that statement.  And something we can all relate to.

As we talked it through more fully, we uncovered a belief that letting go was synonymous with letting herself go.

Whenever limiting beliefs such as these come up (beliefs that limit our growth as a method of protection), I look to nature to help us understand the truth.

In nature, I see letting go in the the river rock is shaped it into smooth, polished perfection by the water.

I see it in the forest when a tree falls, not to it’s death, but to a new life of becoming a home and a source of nourishment for other creatures.

I see the way autumn leaves fall to the ground and create fertile mulch for the coming of spring, leaving nothing to waste.

As we know, letting go is simply another form of letting God.

To see how this is playing out in your own life, I have an exercise for you.

1. Take a pen and a piece of paper and at the top of the page write at area of your life where you keep a firm grip of control, such as love, mothering, work, etc.

2. Underneath that category, make two columns.  On one side write “Letting Go” and on the other write “Letting Myself Go.”

3. Let yourself free write underneath each column on the difference between the two.

The answers may seem obvious, I can almost guarantee that by physically putting pen to paper and seeing it all in black and white, you will learn something new and surprising. (I sure did!)

I’ll drop my findings in the comments below this post so as not to ruin the surprise.  Please leave your findings there too, I’d love to compare notes.

Here’s to the gracefulness of letting go, the gracefulness of nature, and the gracefulness that is YOU.

All my love,





P.S. – I am now accepting applications for new coaching clients in 2019.  If you are interested in growing past your limiting beliefs (which are there for a reason, but don’t have to be) click here to fill out the application . A member of my team will be in touch to set up a conversation!



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  1. Hi Everyone! So the common theme in my findings were: awake vs. numb. In every scenario where I let go, I was awake. Not always comfortable but present, paying attention and listening to my body’s cues. In the letting myself go scenarios, I was always numb, checked out, playing dead. So interesting to know! Can’t wait to hear what you find.

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